We know that are various 'facultative' differences between individuals that are due to genetic subtleties and resulting inner workings of the brain. There is some real possibility, therefore, that the 'conservative' mind differs from the 'liberal' with
respect to how each is disposed to respond and 'operate' out of more generally underlying genetic imperative internal to both.
It is only a conjecture on my part then, that the conservative tends to be more or less easily and/or strongly distracted by matters of an existential nature whereas the liberal seems to have inherited some disposition to
more or less ruminate upon such matters. Related to this, I think, is what I have perceived or experienced as the liberal's generally stronger incorporation of the arts and sciences in his being -call it 'depth of relationals'.
October 21, 2005 Los Angeles Times
STYLE & CULTURE
The timeless art of flattery
Harriet Miers. Eddie Haskell. Your co-workers. They've all indulged in currying favor with higher-ups. But the payoff isn't always clear -- unless you live in Los Angeles or Washington, where there seems to be no such thing as inappropriate fawning.
By Robin Abcarian, Times Staff Writer
Move over Eddie Haskell. Harriet E. Miers could teach you a thing or two about sucking up. Papers released last week by the Texas state archives show a woman who admired the boss and wasn't afraid to show it, with puppy dog cards and flowery notes in her
own hand, often added to official typed correspondence.
Supreme Court nominee Harriet Miers, listens as President George W. Bush speaks in the Oval Office.
(Matthew Cavanaugh / Pool)
"You are the best Governor ever — deserving of great respect!" Miers wrote to George W. Bush in a belated card for his 51st birthday. (Which is why the puppy on the front of the card has such a hangdog look). At the bottom of the
greeting card, she added, "At least for thirty days — you are not younger than me." In a flowery thank you card, she wrote, "Hopefully Jenna and Barbara recognize that their parents are 'cool' — as do the rest of us … All I heard is how great you and
Laura are doing … Texas is blessed!"
Her strong words of praise did not end after her boss attained the White House (taking her with him.) This week, lawmakers released some of her recent speeches and other public remarks. As recently as June, she told White House interns
what a fantastic editor the president is: "All those editing skills and you should think the president was a lawyer himself. He works so constantly." In July, she told a Washington law firm, "My admiration for the president's leadership and Mrs. Bush's
leadership has been reaffirmed on virtually a daily basis."
Can flattery this blatant work?
Can you say Supreme Court nominee Harriet E. Miers? "Boy, is she good," says business consultant Richard Brenner of Chaco Canyon Associates in Boston. The little aside in the birthday card about their age difference is particularly
impressive, he says.
"With that personal, almost private connection between the two of them, she is building a secret little treehouse where they can both sit sometimes."
As simple as it may sound, currying favor is a complicated dance. It can be fraught with danger — not just for the employee, but for the boss and the workplace. In his 2000 book, "You're Too Kind: A Brief History of Flattery," Richard
Stengel has a chapter called "Sucking Up to Caesar." Yes, it worked back then too.
"We like to think that the smarter a person is, the higher she ascends up the ladder of success, the less susceptible that individual is to flattery," Stengel writes. "In fact, the opposite seems to be the case. People of high self-
esteem and accomplishment generally see the praise directed at them as shrewd judgment rather than flattery."
It doesn't always work, of course. And most people in positions of power like to believe they have built in, ah, baloney detectors. But no boss is entirely immune to blandishments from underlings.
"I have been a victim of false flattery and I have been a false flatterer," says Peter Guber, the former chief of Sony and Columbia studios. "Sometimes I recognized it after I've said it, or even when I've said it. I've basked in false
If art lies in concealing art, unfortunately in Miers' case, says Guber, "the curtain has been pulled back." Not that he judges her poorly for her efforts. "The reality is she was trying to set an emotional tone for the relationship. I
don't think that's necessarily always bad. It's a question of whether it's sincere."
Flattery and sincerity: a potent brew. For instance, Bush was a famously average student and has never pretended to be part of any intellectual elite. (In fact, he has honed his reputation as a regular guy over his years in public
service.) So when former White House speechwriter David Frum wrote on his blog that he'd once heard Miers describe Bush as "the most brilliant man she'd ever met," tongues across the political spectrum were set wagging: Could she really mean it? And if
she was sincere, did this reflect poorly on her judgment?
"I assume she is not sincere because if you're smart enough to be on the Supreme Court, you should be smarter than the president," says Ben Austin, who is working for Rob Reiner on his campaign for universal preschool in California.
In this day and age, perhaps the American centers of what social scientists call "ingratiatory behavior" are Hollywood and Washington, D.C., two places where flattery is not only the coin of the realm, but even when it's an obvious
counterfeit, is still valuable to the recipient.
Stengel, who was a senior editor at Time magazine, writes that the caliber and pervasiveness of toadying in Washington makes the nation's capital "more like the courts of Renaissance Europe than it is to our modern era."
Austin, 36, who worked in the public affairs office of the Clinton White House and as a deputy mayor for Los Angeles Mayor Richard Riordan, knows a thing or two about ingratiatory behavior. When he worked for Riordan, he says, they had
a regular basketball game on Saturdays. "You could say the only reason I was able to keep my job in the Riordan administration is that I let Riordan beat me whenever we would play," jokes Austin, who is nearly 40 years younger than Riordan.
Riordan laughs at the idea that Austin threw the game. He has a low tolerance for that kind of behavior, he says, and some of his employees can be downright brutal with him. If they're good, though, he doesn't mind.
"Sycophantic behavior exists anywhere you go," says Austin, "but the White House is so dependent on its staff members performing at a high level that if the main attribute you bring to the table is the ability to write nice notes to
your boss, you aren't going to last. At least not in a normal White House." Management professor Nan Langowitz, director of the Center for Women's Leadership at Babson College in Wellesley, Mass., takes exception to the characterization of Miers'
communications with Bush as brown-nosing. She detects, as some others have in the vehement opposition to the Miers nomination, a whiff of sexism, or at least a well-entrenched double standard.
"You are seeing an example of where the professional woman is taking time to manage the relationship directly herself rather than delegating it to an assistant, but she's obviously not going to get credit for it, she's going to get
slammed. I'd give her credit for writing the handwritten letter herself. Most professional men send those kinds of notes, but they often have their secretaries write them.
"Some leaders need a lot of stroking and demand it of their subordinates and they quickly figure out that's the way to get ahead: 'Gee, you shot a great golf game. Gee, you're the greatest.' What's the difference? They are both examples
of kissing up to the boss. But because she put hers on a puppy dog card as opposed to the bar after the golf game, hers is considered inappropriate."
In this town, however, there is virtually no such thing as inappropriate flattery. "Sucking up in Hollywood is almost, you know, redundant," says Terry Press, the marketing chief for DreamWorks studio. "Getting a movie made is one long
chain of suck-up," says Press, who thinks she might have gotten a little further had she been only a little more ingratiating. "I have been told on many occasions that slightly more sucking up would be a good idea. It's hard because it doesn't come
naturally to me. When I tell somebody I think you're great, I really mean it."
Ingratiatory behavior can be expressed in manifold ways, not just verbally. Brenner notes that it can involve mimicry (adopting the mannerisms, speech or dress of the boss), subtle manipulation (seeking advice or support from a boss
when it's not really necessary); adoration (always sitting next to the boss at meetings or meals); and fulfilling the boss' dreams (proposing solutions that please the boss, even if they are unfeasible).
Call it what you will: apple polishing, brown-nosing, boot-licking, currying favor, toadying, managing up or just plain sucking up, it can pay off. For some, though, behaving this way comes at a moral cost.
Ted Mitchell, 49, former president of Occidental College and a former vice president of the Getty Trust, is now chief executive of the NewSchools Venture Fund, which invests in improving K-12 education. You can almost hear him wince as
he recalls his behavior, back when he was an assistant education professor at Dartmouth College nearly 20 years ago.
"I remember running errands for my department chair, walking in downtown Hanover to buy her a six-pack of diet 7Up. I thought, this isn't right and I am going to stop. It was kind of a moment of truth for me."
In his various jobs, says Mitchell, he has been the object of flattering behavior by subordinates. "Anybody who is in any kind of management position comes across people who really do try a variety of tactics for themselves or for their
units by getting in good with the boss. What's hard as a manager or leader is to try to differentiate what is genuine affection that doesn't have an expectation of reciprocity."
In fact, says consultant Brenner, ingratiatory behavior does not just fool the boss sometimes, it also creates an unpleasant work environment for the flatterer's peers, who may find themselves in a no-win situation. "When someone
curries favor," he wrote in an article on his website, "peers can feel stress. To counteract the tactic, peers tend to defend themselves or attack the currier." Ultimately, writes Brenner, "currying favor corrupts. It harms the organization, first by
creating tension among its people. But when it works, it can be as toxic as bribery or extortion, because it distorts decisions."
Still, writes Stengel, "evolution seems to have ultimately favored sycophantic weenies over self-reliant bruisers…. Smooth talk trumps brute strength every day of the week. Survival of the fittest is not survival of the strongest, but
sometimes of the most unctuous."